genderqueer:

Sign reads:
“In spirit of all families matter, this has been identified as a
GENDER NEUTRAL RESTROOM
Why? For gender-nonconforming individuals, just walking through the door of a public restroom can be stressful. Everyone should have the rights to use a restroom without fear of discrimination. Unisex restrooms are no more dangerous than gender-segregated bathrooms nor do they exclude any one person based on their identity of appearance.
Want to learn more? Visit the LGBT Center of Raleigh or Gender Education Tents.”

genderqueer:

Sign reads:

“In spirit of all families matter, this has been identified as a

GENDER NEUTRAL RESTROOM

Why? For gender-nonconforming individuals, just walking through the door of a public restroom can be stressful. Everyone should have the rights to use a restroom without fear of discrimination. Unisex restrooms are no more dangerous than gender-segregated bathrooms nor do they exclude any one person based on their identity of appearance.

Want to learn more? Visit the LGBT Center of Raleigh or Gender Education Tents.”

(TW: rape culture, slut-shaming, slurs) I don’t want to be a feminist anymore. Like a five-year-old, I want to close my eyes, stick my fingers in my ears, stomp my feet on the floor and scream “No! No, you cannot make me, I won’t, leave me alone!” I am, simply put, too tired. So very, very tired.

I am tired of fighting with my friends. I am tired of arguing that someone groping and slapping my butt isn’t “what I have to expect”, just because I’m at a bar, and the one attacking my butt has a drink in the other hand. I am tired of hearing “boys will be boys” and “when you’re dressed like that …” and “that’s just what guys do”. I am tired of trying to drown those sentiments in loud, repetitive no’s, screamed over and over again, till my throat is sore and my voice weak – just to hear them repeated, as soon as exhaustion threatens to silence me.

I am tired of being afraid. I am tired of seeing someone writing something offensive, sexist, racist, ageist, ableist, somewhere online. I am tired of seeing those writings getting likes and lol’s, and SO TRUE’s. I am tired of being consumed by confusion and anger, typing, typing, typing and typing a seemingly endless response, including research, links and statistics, and then hesitate clicking “submit”. I am tired of knowing that I hesitate because I am afraid of the flood of responses that will come. I am tired of knowing that I will be bombarded with lighten up’s, stop whining’s and get a sense of humor’s for so long, that I will start to wonder if I am indeed wound up too tight, a nagger and humorless. I am tired of the fact that I’m afraid of being called a cunt, even though I don’t find genitalia insulting or demeaning.

I don’t want to be a feminist anymore.

(via notafraidofruins)

I’m reblogging this again because last night I didn’t speak up when someone insulted me and the people I love, regardless of whether he was joking or not. It feels a lot worse to feel guilty for not speaking up than it ever did when people told me to “lighten up” or that “words are just words” and to “get a sense of humor.” 

(via gerileigh)

Confessions of a Half Dyke: My wife and I went to a bonfire Friday night and a guy there kept saying fag. Nobody said a thing to him. We left shortly after. My friend who invited us apologized, but I was upset she didn’t say anything at the time. She’s usually very…outspoken. Like Geri, I’m sick of always being the bitch at the party that “can’t take a joke” or needs to “lighten up or get a thicker skin.” No. Your fucking homophobia, your fucking sexism, your fucking racism and prejudice is not my problem. It’s your problem. And a very large problem. I’m not 100% sure why the situation at the bonfire irked me so much. I hear that kind of BS all the time. All I know is I too am tired of arguing. 

(via confessionsofahalfdyke)

feministdisney:

wk777-personal:

dirgeoftazza:

waltdisneyconfessions:

“I strongly believe in gay rights, but I really hate that people want Disney to have a gay couple. I think it would just be so wrong to incorporate into their movies. I can’t even explain why to myself, but I just really hope it never happens.”

This, I’m all for their rights and I respect their preference.

Also, why why does it matter so much if it were in a Disney film? Kids can learn about sexuality in another way, it doesn’t have to involve Disney.

“I agree. o-o; Especially when this subject of sexuality is WAY too sensitive and controversial of a subject to touch on in this time of era.”

are we talking about the Victorian era, because I’m fairly sure that basically every Disney movie has “the subject of sexuality” in it if two characters being in love counts for that.   And yes, queer identity is somewhat controversial- because there are bigots.   The best way to change people’s opinions on how they view this is often for them to actually see gay/queer/whatever relationships/people/whatever so that it becomes clear that they are just people like everyone else, not devious devil lovers.   I mean, our own vice president said that the show Will & Grace is what helped turn him around- we often take the social influence of tv/movies for granted, but it is undeniably a powerful force that has the potential to shape how we see and talk about certain social issues.

“Plus, people constantly suggesting movies put non-hetero couples in their movies seems a bit forceful…let the producers and directors make their own choices, sheesh. It’s like telling an artist what to draw, and trust me, it takes INSPIRATION for an artist such as I to even draw. :I;”

No, it takes money for Disney illustrators to draw.   You think everyone who animates every Disney movies backs every animation they draw 100%?   Of course not- someone else is in charge of telling the animators what to draw, what to add or take out.   And they do it because it is their job.   Obviously creativity on the part of the illustrator is a large component of their art, but it’s silly to frame this as if they’re all put in a room and told to come up with whatever they find “inspiring” and call it a movie.  

It’s not “forceful.”   

“In a way, making movies is also an art. Don’t shove it, just wait until they’re inspired… :U”

I’m going to continue to “shove it.”   And also, I did see your reply to another person questioning your statements here, and no, the fact that you could take or leave straight relationships as well doesn’t balance this whole thing out.   I can almost guarantee, without looking through your blog, that you have never written multiple posts agreeing with other people that Disney should never have straight relationships in their movie.   The reason is that, even if you don’t care much for them, you accept them as being a predictable part of any narrative- you see them as normal and therefore uncontroversial, unproblematic.   It would be nice if gay relationships could be shown without them being seen as an ideological/political battle every time, but change does not come overnight.   You DO have to push for representation and not sit by waiting possibly forever for it to come.

Also, Ariel was a character created specifically in response to a lot of “pushing” by fans who weren’t content with the earlier princesses and their lack of agency.   Yet everyone loves Ariel and I doubt you think the artists who drew her had a lack of inspiration just because someone told them what to draw.    Things like that seem controversial until they’re actually made… and then it’s not a big deal.

I love it when people say “I support your rights” and then add a “but” and proceed to list the ways in which they actually oppose said rights.

Like, sure I believe in equality for you, I just don’t want you to be treated equally in this way, or that way, or those, and I really hope queer children seeing their identity validated and shown to be okay and nothing to be ashamed of by having these fictional characters to identify with who actually have this thing in common with them and are still cool and role models, like straight children get to identify with the prince-and-princess romances all the time NEVER HAPPENS. Why would you preface that confession with “I strongly believe in gay rights” when you obviously don’t believe in gay rights, other than to try to convince yourself of what a good and not-at-all-bigoted person you are? ”I strongly believe in gay rights/am all for their rights/support equality/am not homophobic/etc.” If you feel the need to follow it with a disclaimer, I do not think it means what you think it means.

And why the fuck not a Disney film? Because oh, won’t somebody think of the children? Um, we are? The queer children that you don’t want to think about enough to even realize they exist. Why is a girl kissing a girl or a boy kissing a boy inherently more sexual and obscene than a boy and a girl kissing?

definitelynotriley:

gaywrites:

Religion: you’re doing it right. 

reasons why san diego is awesome

definitelynotriley:

gaywrites:

Religion: you’re doing it right. 

reasons why san diego is awesome

adorablelesbiancouples:

Wedding day!!! ;D
Mallory&Scarlett<3

adorablelesbiancouples:

Wedding day!!! ;D

Mallory&Scarlett<3

saferwithme:

planets-bend-between-us:

I hate when people tell you you can’t “ship” friend!ships. Because if you’ve ever had a friendship on a show that you’re emotionally invested in from head to toe, you’ll know they give you all the feels that an OTP does, if not even more sometimes. There’s something truly profound about two well-rounded characters who share an extremely profound friendship; I daresay there can be more complexities there than a romantic ship could have. The pull and tug, the loyalty, the lighthearted moments and the ones riddled with angst. It’s all so powerful.

So yes, I firmly believe you can ship friend!ships, and they can be just as important as a regular OTP.

#THANK #YOU #oh my god people don’t seem to understand this concept at all #it’s like a character isn’t complete until he or she has a romantic significant other #like every other relationship said character has will always come second and it bothers me to no end #Like #do you immediately disregard your best friends the second you start dating someone else? #do those people suddenly stop being important?

Also some people and therefore why not some fictional characters don’t want to have romantic relationships.

patheticfangirl:

This is my letter to angry fanboys.

First, let it be known that I love most fanboys. When I go to a con, most of the guys there are respectful. They share a passion with me, and that’s awesome. We’re all on a rock floating through space with little connection to most of…

ykoriana:

thedailywhat:

Comic Book Boycott of the Day: Conservative group One Million Moms is at it again, directing its not-quite-a-million members to boycott Marvel and DC Comics due to recent announcements from both companies about their futures of their gay characters.
DC has revealed that a major character is soon going to come out as gay, while Marvel announced the engagement of superhero Northstar to his boyfriend, Kyle.
These events don’t sit will with One Million Moms, whose anti-gay agenda has also led them to protest the wedding of Archie Comics’ first gay character, Kevin Keller.
“Children desire to be just like superheroes,” said the group in a statement. “Children mimic superhero actions and even dress up in costumes to resemble these characters as much as possible. Can you imagine little boys saying, ‘I want a boyfriend or husband like X-Men?’”
The statement goes on to accuse the publishers of trying to “indoctrate [sic] impressionable young minds.”
Marvel and DC have yet to respond to the homophobic comments.
[towleroad.]

Oookay. So:
1) ”Mom, I want to wear all black and become a psychotic vigilante who prowls the city at night beating up perps and facing off criminals even more psychotic than me.”
“Oh, that’s lovely darling.”
2) “Mom, I’m gay.”
“What? NO! COMIC BOOKS HAVE TURNED MY CHILD INTO A HOMOSEXUAL!”

So. Much. Fail.

ykoriana:

thedailywhat:

Comic Book Boycott of the Day: Conservative group One Million Moms is at it again, directing its not-quite-a-million members to boycott Marvel and DC Comics due to recent announcements from both companies about their futures of their gay characters.

DC has revealed that a major character is soon going to come out as gay, while Marvel announced the engagement of superhero Northstar to his boyfriend, Kyle.

These events don’t sit will with One Million Moms, whose anti-gay agenda has also led them to protest the wedding of Archie Comics’ first gay character, Kevin Keller.

“Children desire to be just like superheroes,” said the group in a statement. “Children mimic superhero actions and even dress up in costumes to resemble these characters as much as possible. Can you imagine little boys saying, ‘I want a boyfriend or husband like X-Men?’”

The statement goes on to accuse the publishers of trying to “indoctrate [sic] impressionable young minds.”

Marvel and DC have yet to respond to the homophobic comments.

[towleroad.]

Oookay. So:

1) ”Mom, I want to wear all black and become a psychotic vigilante who prowls the city at night beating up perps and facing off criminals even more psychotic than me.”

“Oh, that’s lovely darling.”

2) “Mom, I’m gay.”

“What? NO! COMIC BOOKS HAVE TURNED MY CHILD INTO A HOMOSEXUAL!”

So. Much. Fail.

DEAR TUMBLR

youarenotyou:

jadedfucker:

youarenotyou:

Please stop talking about how “bad”, “wrong”, “dangerous” or “stupid” it is when people self-diagnose, especially in regard to mental illness. 

Let’s go over the reasons this is fucked up, problematic and oppressive.

1. Classism. Psychiatric and other types of evaluations are really fucking expensive, and often inaccessible. The last psych eval I had cost me $500. Anything involving neurology? Costs a SHIT TON more. Not to mention, services that are available to the poor are typically of low quality.

2. It dis-empowers people with disabilities by establishing doctors as the ultimate authorities on our own experiences. No matter how well we may know ourselves, a doctor supposedly will know better. Because they are a doctor. (And treating someone as an authority simply because they have the privilege of a formal education is classist and ableist.)

3. The entire psychiatric system is still really oppressive to people with disabilities, who can become institutionalized against their will. A lot of people understandably do not trust doctors or are afraid to pursue treatment. Forcing people to see a doctor to obtain a “real” diagnosis is ignoring this reality.

4. Psychiatry and the medical establishment are also very oppressive towards people who are marginalized in other ways. The fact that trans people can still be diagnosed as mentally ill for being trans is only one example of this. People who are out of status could risk deportation for seeking help. Etc.

5. Doctors often disagree with each other. Doctors misdiagnose and prescribe medication that can aggravate an illness. Doctors frequently make mistakes. Teaching people that their own instincts are wrong if a doctor disagrees with them can be really goddamn dangerous. Like, taking the wrong medication due to misdiagnosis can result in death, okay? Serious shit.

If your problem is with people trivializing illness, then say so. That’s not the same as self-diagnosis, which does not inherently trivialize anything. A lot of people consider self-diagnosis to be liberating, empowering, and extremely important, myself included. Don’t tell us how we are “supposed” to seek treatment, especially when it involves a system that is fundamentally flawed, largely inaccessible, and overwhelmingly oppressive.

THIS SO MUCH! I think people need to realize that minorities and women are STILL the MOST misdiagnosed in the system. I was in therapy last time(four years ago, and now I’m about to start up again for “preventative” measures) for post partum depression and my young, white, male therapist sent me to AA, I was a newly 21 yr old mother who was breastfeeding at the time. I could add so much more but they already said all that needs to be said up there ^. Also, many “issues” can be characterized by many different “illnesses” and can help to cancel out the real problem(s). Which is not good or fucking helpful.

Even when you’re getting help and being “diagnosed” it is still a part of a greatly biased system and you may need to do your own research and go to different sources and doctors and help in order to get the treatment you TRULY need.

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